Tears of Rejection

Despondent baby elephant weeps for hours after mom rejects him and tries to stomp him to death.

Despondent baby elephant weeps for hours after mom gives birth, then attacks him at game preserve in China.

I know this is rare but I think I cried a few hours myself after reading this article about baby weeping for five hours after it’s mother rejected him. I think my tears came from the same pain so embedded in my own life of growing up in the foster care system since the age of 5. I resonated with the hurtful feelings of this mammal, the despondency of being so young and innocent and not understanding why? He was born and it’s mother tried to kill him. Two hours later they tried to connect him to the mother again and she stomped him. Very wounded he lay and wept for five hours. Oh if this baby could talk, what would he say? Probably a lot of what we human mammals say as we deal with family dysfunction and relationship problems.
It’s painful, any form of rejection but when it comes from such an intimate place it has years and years of scarring that only an act of God can fully and completely heal. Ironically I spoke with a teenager just today. He shared with me his story of being separated from his mother for six years. His last time crying was last night. Because I know that same feeling and have had years of counseling, loving relationships to help in my own healing process I was able to offer some guidance and help.
Even still I had to fight back my own tears as I listened to him and saw the longing and pain in his eyes. He’s young enough to be my son and old enough to not want the outwardly display of motherly affection but I saw it in his eyes. That look that is oh so familiar, the aches that wakes one up at night and lingers till early morn. I felt him trying to be strong but just needing a safe place to allow his emotions to unravel.
The baby elephant let it rip and after a few days in the next scene you see him seemingly smiling with the zoo keeper. This is quick progress being separated from it’s mother after birth. Still I wonder how many days will this calf be found crying with groves of tears seeping from his eyes?
You know I still cry and I’m well into my adult years. Even though things are different these days, my history in the system and all of the levels of pain it reminds me that something went wrong with the ideal family structure. As for the young man: well he has many days yet to face, I can foresee his struggle ahead and I want to reach out, to protect him, lead and guide as much as I can to help him to be okay. Think I will.
Just in case you are out there and your life happens to be similar to mine, the boy or even the elephant; just know you are not alone. Rejection is never easy in any form, however, the healing is worth the fight to become whole. Cry those tears but get up and smile again.
I’ve watched this transformation…..
Through Gewanda’s Eyes

Little Zhuangzhuang is doing much better now after being adopted by an employee at the Shendiaoshan Wild Animal Natural Reserve Area in Rongcheng, Shandong province.

Little Zhuangzhuang is doing much better now after being adopted by an employee at the Shendiaoshan Wild Animal Natural Reserve Area in Rongcheng, Shandong province.

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